"Make it Count Moment"
How happy are you with majority of the relationships you have right now? Excellent? Okay? Pretty rough? or terrible? Whats keeping you in that state?
These questions really made me think. I think in all of my relationships that I have right now, we're doing great. That's why I still have those relationships right now. I may have grown apart from some people but most of them still know I care about them. With the ones I'm not doing ok with, I have strayed away from. They seemed to be tying me down. And it's not about me judging them, it's about me trying to be closer to God and a lot of people that were in my life were all about drama. I don't want any of that. Some relationships fell apart because I started changing. I couldn't go out anymore, so therefore they didn't want to hang out with me anymore..and that's ok. I'm glad I see what I really was to that person. It's not hurting me any.
There are a few things that can really hinder a relationship from being all that it can be. Some times it is hard getting along with others. One of the first things is misunderstanding. So often we butt heads and don't ever want to compromise on things. You have your opinion and they have theirs and you're sticking to it. I myself have always had a problem with not really accepting people as they really are. So often I try to change them or push them away because they annoy me and aren't like me. But know this, we all have differences of opinions. Not every person in the world is just like you. We must accept each other, accept differences of opinion, and move on.
The second thing is the "me-first" attitude. "I'll give you this, only if you do something for me." We need to learn to compromise. To be honest, this puzzled me. Maybe it's just the relationships I've been in, but I've seen so many times where I did so many things to make that other person happy but they never compromised with me..I was being walked all over. There is a difference in compromising and bullying. Meet in the middle. Do things that make both sides happy and allow both people to get what they need.
And last thing that can really stop a relationship from reaching its full potential is our mistakes. As I keep saying throughout this blog, we are all human. We all make mistakes. But if you can't forgive someone and move on, that mistake they made will keep popping into your head and will affect your relationship from then on out. It's natural for us to protect ourselves from ever being hurt again, but why hammer someone down again and again when they are trying to make things better. That bitterness, as described in Day 10, will only keep festering inside you and bringing you down unless we fully forgive that person.
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